The Power of Words - Saving a Life A True Story
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The Power of Words - An Amazing Story
It was in the 1970’s that I met a young man with blonde curly hair, green deep eyes and a sad mouth that never seemed to smile. His name was Edward and he stood a little over 6 feet tall. He presented a mood of quiet, shy and almost pitiful demure.
Edward had enrolled in a music theory class that I was teaching at a beautiful CaliforniaCommunity College located in the small, sleepy town of Moorpark. Beautiful green rolling hills landscaped the small College and the newly built music department was constructed in a complete circle. I was proud to be on staff, offering a variety of music classes after working very hard to attain a teaching degree.
Being a single parent of three children was a mixed blessing. They were the light of my life and reason for getting out of bed each day, but struggling to feed these adorable three and going to school to get my teaching degree was about the hardest thing I had ever done. But – I did it.
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Meeting Edward
The first day of class as students mill around as they decide which seat to take is always interesting to me. Some are confident and more aggressive than others, claiming the front row for themselves. Other, less confident fill up the middle section and the back row is usually reserved for the shy students, and even for those who do not want to be here in the first place. This is my own observation and there is always the exception.
It was hard not to notice the only six foot boy, Edward, as he walked into the classroom a few minutes late and positioned himself in the back row. He slumped into his chair and lowered his head with his arms folded across his chest in a defying manner. This would be his general entrance into class for the remainder of the semester.
As weeks progressed and tests were given, Edward did not do well. He managed to turn in homework which was marked way below his ability level with my notes. He never participated in class discussion or offered to answer any questions.
To my knowledge, he had no friends at school. Sometimes, during lunch, I would see him sitting on the grass, under a tree, munching on a sandwich and staring into space. On occasion, I would allow myself to join him on the grass and see if I could start up a conversation. I had this gnawing feeling that I needed to know him better, but at the same time stay professional and not allow myself to get involved..
Listen to your heart, not your head
Edward rarely talked to me or to anyone. He would nod his head up and down or side to side for a yes, or a no. Never-the-less, I continued to take an interest in Edward in hopes that he would open up to me.
Edward missed to many classes and when he did come, he carried himself like an old man as though he carried the weight of the world on his shoulders. However, one morning, as class was ending and students filed out, Edward shot me a quick glance and I swear that I saw the beginnings of a smile appear.
The more positive interest I showed in Edward, the better his grades became. The semester was winding down, finals were about to begin and I worried about Edwards reaction to his final grade. He was the last one to finish his final exam and as I waited, I said a silent prayer for him. I so much wanted to be able to give him a good grade.
In those days, I had a reputation of being a strict, but fair grading instructor. I also had the largest enrollment in the music department. It was important that I live up to my reputation. Yes, indeed.
Finally, Edward finished his exam and he looked completely worn out and defeated. I wished him good luck and told him I would be giving out the final grades on Tuesday morning at 9:00 a.m.
My thoughts continued to lead me to Edward and the final exam that he struggled with. I had trouble sleeping that weekend. Somehow, I knew that the grade that I would give him would be a turning point in this young mans life.
My Meeting with Edward
Tuesday morning finally came. I made breakfast, fed the children and helped prepare them for school. There was a mountain of laundry , dishes to do and beds to be changed before I headed out for my classes. None of that seem to matter. I was a teacher and had a responsibility to hand out final grades today. And Edward was no exception, He would be given the grade he deserved. Maybe he needed to learn the biggest lesson of all – to be responsible for his own actions. I felt good about my decision.
I sat in my office looking at the long line of students waiting to come in and recieve their final grade.. I allowed one person at a time to come in, take a seat, close the door and get ready to be “judged”. After each student left my office, I would take a peek at the line to see where Edward was. After an hour or so, the line became shorter and still there was no Edward. I began to worry. Did something happen at home to delay him? Was there an accident on the way to school? Maybe he was stopped by a policeman? Perhaps he is sick.
The last student in line met with me, received their grades and left.
Where is Edward? Shall I wait a little longer? Am I fooling myself ? He is not coming. I decided to lock up my office and go home. I had done all I could. But something deep within continued to gnaw at me. I felt sick to my stomach. My eyes filled with tears.
What is wrong with me? I took some deep breathes, sat back and closed my eyes. In front of me lay the papers, the final exam for Edward. I had not decided what kind of grade to give him. Well, it didn’t matter as he didn’t show up anyhow. I looked down at the exam with his name printed on it and saw an imaginary D as his final grade...
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You're an A person
I got up from my chair, gathered my things, closed the office door behind me. As I reached for my keys to lock up my office, I heard footsteps approaching me. I held my breath as I turned to see Edward standing behind me. He apologized for being late and asked if I would please give him his final exam and grade. I hesitated for a few seconds, then cautiously open the door and asked him to have a seat. He looked just terrible. His eyes were sunk with dark black circles under them and the hollows of his cheeks were drawn. His swollen lips were cracked with dried blood in the creases. His skin was pale and his hair matted. He was wearing the same clothes he had worn for the last few weeks.
“Would you like some water?”, I asked him. He replied “No thank you,” as he sat trembling.. Then he spoke to me for the first time.
“I know that I am getting a low grade on my final. I realize that I have not been participating in class and that I am an embarrassment to others. I am lazy, selfish, stupid and an ugly no-good-for-anything person. I have no place on this earth and what’s more, no one can ever love a person like me. I am a hopeless case with absolutely no future”.
I could not believe my ears. I wanted to interrupt him, to convince him that he was none of these things. Instead – I let him talk. I listened with my heart and not my head. I fought back my own tears to manifest my strength and professionalism. When he had finished, I faced him, looked directly into his very sad eyes and said, “Edward, your final grade is an A”. His reaction was one of total and complete surprise. “You are giving me an A? Me? Why would you give me an A when I did such a poor job in class, on my assignments and on my final exam. Why would you do that?”
My answer to Edward was this. “You may appear to be a D student, but you are an A person. I believe in you now and I will always believe in you. I am here for you now and I will always be here for you. Never, ever forget that. Now, go and create the life you dream of.. Believe in yourself. I will be watching. And by the way Edward - I love you”
In all my years of teaching, I have never graded a student this way.
The Goodbye Note
Later that evening, as I prepared to go to sleep, I began to question what I had done.” Did I make a terrible mistake? Had Edward filled the room with lies just to win me over and get a high grade? Had I been had? Was my level of compassion playing tricks on me?” Finally, my exhausted mind and body gave way to a deep sleep.
At 3:00 a.m. the phone rang. In a fog, I tried to sound alert as I answered it. The voice on the other end asked me if I were Edwards Music Theory Teacher at MoorparkCollege. I told him yes and waited. “I am a priest from Edwards’ Church and I have something to tell you.” “I want to thank you on be-half of Edward’s family and myself for saving his life today.”
Then the Priest went on to explain to me the events leading up to this phone call. Edward has an older brother who has always been angry because he is short in height, although scholastically a high achiever and excels in sports. This brother has always been extremely jealous of the 6 foot frame of Edward and has belittled and verbally abused Edward most of his life. This treatment has caused him to have severe low self-esteem and a miserable existence. Edward thought of his brother as his hero and wanted desperately to please him. I am not sure what role the parents played but I get the impression they were wrapped up in their business and had little if any time for the boys.
Treat everyone as though they are an A person
The day that Edward came late to meet with me regarding his final grade, he had left a note on his pillow. It read: “ I am sorry that I could not be the kind of son and brother you wanted me to be. All I ever wanted was to be loved. I am sorry for being unlovable. I will go now…you will find me in the closet.” I am sorry for any inconvenience I have caused you. Please have my body cremated.
My small savings is in the top right-hand drawer of the dresser. “
Edward wrote that note prior to meeting with me. His plan was to see me one last time before taking his own life. When I gave him an A, told him that I believed in him and that I loved him and would be here for him, something changed within himself. He had never heard those words before and it gave him something that we call hope. He left my office feeling positive and uplifted for the first time in his life. He felt so good, he decided to take a long walk in the surrounding hills and relive the confirmation he had just heard. He was loved…yes, someone in his useless life loved him and believed in him. He forgot all about his plan to do away with himself.
Meanwhile, his family found the note, went to the closet in Edwards room where they found a rope hanging from the rafters.
His closet was carefully prepared as the last thing he would see before dying. A large photograph of his brother was mounted on the wall, in view, from where the rope was hanging..
Give someone a word of hope
Oh, the power of the spoken word! We never know but what we say and the way we say it could completely change someone’s life. Edward re-enrolled in my Music Theory Class the next semester. He worked hard, tutored other students in the class after school 3 days a week and this time passed his final 100% and got a genuine A+. Today, Edward has a beautiful wife and 4 sweet children. He is a successful Dentist in Southern California and donates his spare time to abused children, helping them to find love, acceptance and hope.
Many of the most important and life-changing moments of my life have occurred during times that I have been a teacher. The lessons I have learned have formed my character and shaped my destiny. Without them, I would be a very different person and in a very different place than I am today.
Words are the keys to the heart – A Chinese Proverb
"Words have the power to destroy or heal. When words are true and kind, they can change the world." Bhudda
Don’t take people for granted and never assume someone knows how you feel or what you think. They’ll only know for sure when you tell them.
Profanity is for those who lack the creativity and intelligence to otherwise express themselves.
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Fiddleman - Thank you dear hub friend for being the first to comment on my new hub. I shall be visiting your hubs very soon.
You have no idea how moved I was reading this hub. It more than confirmed to me what I have come to believe about you and that you are a wonderful and caring person, but more than that you are willing to take that extra step. You are selfless and giving and I truly look forward to actually meeting you someday. How precious to know that this young man was encouraged to truly become all that God had intended him to be and the Father used you as an instrument to give him the hope to go on. Love you dear friend!
This is a really beautiful hub and a real inspiration to all of us to help other people that cross our paths throughout our lives. Thank you for sharing it........Mai
Judi dear - I have learned some things about this experience that I didn't realize until I read your beautiful comments. After all these years, I see, for the first time, that yes, I was an instrument in God's hands. Thank you so much for pointing this out to me. Wow! I was being blessed and din't even know it. Very powerful. Thankyou dear friend. Much Love.
Dear Mountain Blossoms - How nice to see you here, reading my story. Thank you so much for the beautiful and so very true comments. Have a lovely day Mai.
Audrey: What a remarkable story - Know that God is always directing our journey, our words and our path. How inspiring to know that you saved a young man's life!! It brought tears to my eyes knowing the impact you had and how you led him to the right path... Glory to God and Glory to you!!! I am blessed and fortunate to know such a wonderful person.
I truly believe we are all inter connected and if we listen to that soft voice inside, we will always know the right thing to do. It is not always easy but the peace we feel inside after we have taken that leap of faith, assures us the right path was chosen. Love and peace to you my dearest friend...
Vocalcoach I cannot say the words that I feel after reading this wonderful hub. Your words and the story have brought me to tears. I so resonate with what you have written. All I can really say is, 'thank you'. A truly wonderful and uplifting piece of writing. Voted up my dear Vocalcoach.
You had brought tears to my eyes.
Had you not waited, had you not listened to your feelings...and all that jazz...
You are amazing, inspiring and a power house. You make a difference and so much more.
I am a huge fan.
Another great hub from you. You made this so beautiful and really amazing story. Words are the keys to the heart is beautiful quotes. Although it can be so painful, but I hope it always give us happiness. I enjoy the power of words from your story. Rating up!
Blessing and hugs,
prasetio30 - You are an excellent example of how to use words. Your hubs are always tender and kind. We have great power when we speak, so it is important to chose our words well and never hurt another person. Thank you prasetio30.
amorea13 - I want to thank you dear friend for the touching and beautiful comments. You have shared something with me that leaves me both touched and uplifted. You are a compassionate and kind soul. Bless you!
Hello Cherie - You wrote the wisest of truths when you said: "I truly believe we are all inter connected and if we listen to that soft voice inside, we will always know the right thing to do". I thank you so much for this. I am sure many of us have been instrumental in changing another persons life by something we say. We just never know how powerful our words can be. Thank you my dear friend and blessings to you.
This was a beautiful hub. I will try to remember Edward in my own life.
Tkumah - I am very pleased that you read my hub and recieved such understanding and wisdom from this story.
Thank you for your kind and generous comments. They make me feel very special. I welcome you as my new friend and will be reading your hubs as well. Blessings to you Tkumah
Barbara Kay - Thank you my new friend for reading my hub and applying what you have learned in your own life. That is what it is all about. We all need each other and we all need to feel good about ourselves. Blessings and joy to you Barbara Kay!
One of the most inspirational and positive stories I've ever read, vocalcoach. Thanks so much for sharing this.
A wonderful story and you can be so pleased about it. I know words candestroy you and they are sharper than a razorplade.
That was incredible. I was captivated all the way through without interruption. Thanks for sharing this uplifting story - as a former teacher it is amazing to realize the impact that can be made with our words, an awesome responsibility that you handled beautifully. May many blessings come your way.
This is wonderfully inspirational. I am still reaching for the tissues.
A well-told, heartwarming story, vocalcoach.
William F. Torpey - Your comments touched me so. Thankyou my friend.
acaetnna - Awwwwwwwwwe - I appreciate so much the way you have connected with my story. Stay sweet always!
Dear Peg - You stated it very well. As teachers we do have a tremendous responsibility. As you know, our students even take the side of a teacher when parents may have a difference of opinion about an issue. "Well, my teacher said....", is a common reaction. Thank you my friend for adding to the importance of the spoken word.
Mythbuster - Thank you kindly for your supportive comments. I'm glad I finally wrote about this experience. It took me many years to muster up the courage. Joy to you!
Hello Hello - What you say is so very true and powerful.
As a child I was constantly "cut down" by my own mothers harsh and frightening words. So I understand. However, I learned a valuable lesson from my childhood - to never say anything that will hurt or demean another person, regardless of the age or the circumstance. Thank you my friend!
This story is moving and powerful the same way as the phrase "I love you" can be. A word of hope, a word of praise could change a person's life and you proved it. So beautiful and touching I am at a lost for words. Thank you
Petra Vlah - Thank you for your comments on my hub. I know that you speak words of praise and love to others. That does more good than anything of material value. I am pleased to have found you on hubpages and will be reading your articles. Happiness and love to you Petra.
There wasn't a WOW button. There isn't an "I love this" and "I love you button". I'm buttoned up!
Oh what a beautiful story. I always follow the conviction of my heart which always leads me to give, be kind and give that "A" regardless if earned according to the WORLD! You've just made my day, I'll never for get the name Edward yet will allow it to serve as a reminder to continue on the path of loving. Peace and Love :)
"...the power of the spoken word!" Because those words are the shell for the containing energy, that makes it so powerful. The written words are more like mirrors and what one gets out of them is more an interpretation that depend on the capability of the person reading.
When I read your story, indeed, I was very touched. Yes, it is *Love* that is the energy that can fill words and every thing else... This has the power to touch and to change. As you give this, you will also be able to receive.
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Wow, what an amazing story. This hub actually took my breath away. You must feel truly honored to have been chosen to help Edward the way that you did.
When I tell people that my goal in life is to make the world a better place for someone - they just don't seem to understand - but this is exactly what I mean.
Your words, your ways, changed that boy's life forever and who knows what may become of his children or grandchildren, who wouldn't be here if you hadn't helped.
You have no way to know at this point, but your love and your words may have changed the world for all of us.
To really improve someone's life the way you did for Edward is such a gift - not only to him, but to you, and to all of us.
Words are so powerful and so is love.
I was moved to tears by this hub. You are an amazing person. If I'd had someone like you around, life would've meant so much more.
Wow, what a amazing story. The lack of love in anyone's life is a dreadful cross to bare. Young Edward was indeed fortunate to get you as his music tutor, to be there for him when he most needed.
As a Music Composition and Theory Major,this story touches me deeply vocalcoach;)
Thank you VocalCoach. Very inspiring story .I know how words can either build you or destroy you having gone through that in in abusive marriage .I am trying to rebuild my life now which is not easy having listened to those ugly words time and time again.I would like to help people like me and Andrew in future and your story has made my day...There is a lot of hope out there! May you continue being the instrument of hope!
Hi another hub to pull at the heartstrings. You are a brilliant writer and bring life to whatever you write.
Some people are meant to be 'carers' and 'givers' and this is who you are.
Carry on showing that there is so much love and care left in this world.
Thanks for being you Audrey.
Take care and God Bless.
I've been on hubpages for over an year. I've read many stories. This one certainly stands out. Such an amazing story. Keep writing like this.
peacefulparadox - I want to thank you so much for your supportive comments. Your hubs are next for me to read. I look forward to it.
This truly is an amazing story and beautifully written. I'm so glad to be a follower and can't wait to read many more.
This is a beautiful world, what makes it ugly to live in is- many are too busy with everything that they forget to stop and listen with their mind and heart to others who are lost in the breakneck speed of the roller coaster ride called life. Beautiful hub.
Wonderful story! So glad you shared it with us, and glad you brought Edward out of his confused mind and helped him see the truth. I know about that confusion, and it took me years to see that I was worth something in life.
Dardia - For many of us, it does take years before we realize our true worth and value. Your kind email sent to me took your time and your thought as well as your love and compassion. You did this generous act, without even knowing me, just a brief introduction here on HP. You reached out to someone in pain. Thank you.
Lita C. Malicdem - Yes, Lita, you have made an excellent point. Learning to really listen - as you say, with both the hear and the mind does take time and complete concentration on the other person. Thank you for being one of these caring people.
As I read through your story I was amazed by the emotions which I felt. There was an immense sadness for the pain which Edward had been caused and anger against the cruel and thoughtless brother and the neglectful parents. I could also sense the torment that you felt in deciding how to grade the paper but the most deeply felt emotion was the joy which I felt when I read how all your actions to support Edward not only saved his life but completed turned it around. You should be very proud of your actions and the love and compassion you displayed.
Amber:)
Truly an amazing story. What a blessing you were to this young man. You are right; we can all bless someone this way if we just will. You have awakened this call in me. I am going to act upon it. Thank you.
Amber Allen - Miracles happen when we don't even recognize it. After my experience with Edward, I learned a valuable lesson. Words can hurt, challenge, or change us. What a responsibility we all have to use the right choice of words. Thank you for recognizing this. I value you, and the comments you have made.
What a wonderfully touching story. The poor lonely child...
De Greek - I have to wonder how many more are out there, like this one. Thank you for commenting and I wish you the best!
... I sincerely wish I could come through this computer screen and give you a hug for this wonderful story.
And if this sounds cliche - please forgive me - but what an amazing movie this would make ....... you are my hero too and for a story like this I will never forget you - for you have made a difference in someone else's life - the true spirit of a teacher but also a blessing with a gift of teaching and the unselfish gift of giving .......
The gift of acceptance is so powerful in our lives. Just to know that someone cares, someone loves, is the most positive thing a person can experience. And to give that assurance of love and acceptance, often "against the grain" as it were, is such a wonderful act. This is what it means to be human. Empathy as the opposite of prejudice and rejection - so wonderful!
Thanks for sharing this amazingly beautiful story!
Love and peace
Tony
Tony - Hello my dear friend. I am so touched by your remarks on my story. You have added enlightning comments and I especially like your "the gift of acceptance is so powerful in our lives". Love IS acceptance. The longer I live, the more I realize this truth. Thank you Tony. Open your heart, Audrey
missmilky - I am so sorry that you have had to experience unpleasant harshness. Just remember, the unkind things he said to you was about him, not you. Unfortunately those terrible words consumed you and became your reality. Using visualization and affirmations will help erase all those negative and cruel dialogues. You are a beautiful, caring and worwhile person and I love you. :-)
WOW..Just like a movie, A GREAT ONE. As I read this hub with the background music of Natalie Merchants, "Carvnival" which was the ending music for the movie "Monster". My waterey eyes could not stop reading this article. You are a very good person and this world needs more like you. Thank You for this beautiful story.
Dear denise - Oh, thank you so much for your very kind comments. For you to be touched by this story shows what a compassionate and kind person you are. We need more like you too!
I'm commenting as I wipe the tears from my face and am attempting to catch my breath.
In the work I do I remind people daily that words have power, our words to others and our words to ourselves. In the book The Seven Agreements one of the agreements is to always be impeccable with our words. Not the grammar or the spelling but in the delivery of those words and how they might affect others.
What a wonderful, wonderful piece!
Dear Bel - "The Seven Agreements" is my favorite self-help book. Like you, being impeccable with your word, is a life altering habit. This experience happened a long time ago and I thought twice about whether to tell the story. I am glad I have shared this experience now. Thank you for your beautiful comments. I am now eager to begin reading your hubs. Blessings!
Ahh, this is a story that is so touching and beautiful. Thanks for sharing it with us. There are so many good things to learn from this story too.
I love the obvious compassion and empathy. I also love the way you reflected on your role, professional ethics, the purpose of a grade, and the power of a word of encouragement as well. I love that you trusted your instincts on this. It would have been easy to rely on professional training alone, and given the grade he deserved. On the flip side, I have known people who have blamed themselves for a suicide, and were plagued with "if only I had..." thoughts for years. So, even though we're not responsible for another person's choices, we can take responsibility for the way we influence others - positive or negative. I hope this kid's family learned something about the power of words! Thanks for sharing a powerful message in a beautiful story. You spent some time reflecting on this, and it comes through.
This was an absolutely great hub! And you are an amazing person for your ability to see beyond the surface of what this boy showed. You saw the true essence of him. Very few people would make that effort. You have touched many lives, I am sure, probably in ways you may never know. This was a beautiful story and I am glad you shared it and that you are part of HubPages. Hope and compassion are wonderful attributes that we can give to each other and your hub reminds us to give more of it to each other. Rated up and Beautiful.
toknowinfo - Your beautiful comments have confirmed my question to myself (should I write about this?) It took me a long time to make the decision to make it a hub. I have learned that regardless of the experiences we live, happy or sad ones, when we share with others it is beneficial and we always learn something. Thank you my friend. Have a blessed holiday!
kim039 - Thank you for every word you wrote. You have a deeply caring heart which comes through as you write. I am so pleased that you responded to this hub. You have added much to it. Bless you Kim.
PaperNotes - Appreciate your comments. Yes, there is much to be learned from this experience. I learned that sometimes the heart knows better than the head. Thanks.
russell621 - Your comments mean so much to me. I was also fortunate to know this young man.
Mentalist acer - I am honored that someone in your position would leave me such a lovely comment. You can definetley relate to my story. This means everything to me. Thank you and God Bless!
katiem2 - I have always seen you as a person who follows the conviction of the heart. You have a heart which is pure and shining. It is so big, the entire hubpage family and more could fit inside very nicely with room to spare. You, my beautiful Katie are just what this world needs more of. Love to you, my friend.
Micky Dee - Well, you are certainly pushing all the right buttons! Thank you, dear heart.
leni sands - Your gentle and kind comments have touched me so. I will hold you close in my heart and through HP too. You are one of the beautiful people. Stay close...
Great page!! Wow, I think I actually did have a couple of teachers who were just like this with me. I will never forget them for it too, they helped form who I am today. This is such a priceless gift to be able to give to another human being, one that I believe can only be repaid by the student doing there very best at what they were taught. Thanks for sharing this here with us! A.B.
Wow, you are truly amazing. You have a way with your words. Your hubs are so inspirational. Thanks a million.
Ashlie - What an added blessing for me to find you here on HPs. It is indeed a continuing gift to me to read your comments, especially knowing where you are coming from. Continue on the path...you deserve all the love you can hold. Your new friend.
amy, my hubpage friend. I am amazed at the way you are going through everyone of my hubs, reading each one, commenting and rating. I can truly say, you are my biggest fan and follower. I thank you so much for your support and wonderful remarks. Thank you!!!!!
vocalcoach,
Give yourself another pat on the back for me,will you? You are amazing.
I was a college instructor for 3 years though I had to quit to focus more on my law school, but I can totally relate to what you had to go through as a teacher.As we both found out, they need not just the lessons in academics but more of our time and attention so that they will know how to deal with the lessons of life. Being their second parent, they should know that we care..we understand.God bless you, my friend.
theseus - How very nice it is to find another teacher who can relate to my experience. I thank you for that. And God Bless you!
Oh my goodness!! What a story to share! Lucky for Edward that he had you to show him love and respect! And three kids and a full time job on your own? You get more amazing every time I read a hub! I just had Laurel and that felt tough! A smart lady once told me that if having a bad day - push it out of your mind and do what must be done. I was 17. I have never forgotten that and that was the thread sometimes that kept me moving forward. Thanks for sharing this story!
RealHousewife - I agree with the smart lady's advice. Very solid tip and it really works. You have the "stuff" with which heroes are made. I see it in your comments to me as well as in your amazing hugs. I can't thank you enough!
Audrey, I am incredibly touched (to tears, really) but not at all surprised after reading this story and knowing a little about you. I believe that things happen for a reason, and you seem to have that special ability to see things in people that perhaps no one else takes the time to notice - In Edwards case, not even his own parents.
How fortunate for him that he encountered a very special teacher who changed the course of his life. You are a true inspiration to us all.
Eiddwen - You are such a sweet person. Your beautiful comments mean the world to me. I believe that each one of us are connected and we just have to look a little deeper into the heart of another human being to realize what our mission might be. We never know how what we say might affect another person. Thank you, my friend ~
I am having a hard time seeing through my tears to send you this, vocalcoach. I am not a believer in organized religion, but I do believe in God. I do not talk about that aspect of myself often, as religion is such a personal part of who each person is. I would never want to offend anyone, but you are an angel, and I believe God worked a miracle through you. There is no other explanation for how this beautiful, but damaged young man came to be in your classroom and you were there to change his life, virtually reaffirming his value at the 11th hour. You are so special, so precious, a perfect example of heaven on earth. I believe God isn't waiting in the church, he lives in the special people who are living voices for him...I will never again look at your title as voicecoach in the same way. Although it is your business, your voice gives so much more. You gave Edward the will to live. Thank you for sharing this monumentally beautiful experience that illustrates the importance of valuing all life. I've never been so moved and I feel I have been touched by an angel, you, voicecoach.
Amy, dear friend - I learned such a valuable lesson from this experience. My hope is, that by sharing my story, we will all learn to see others with our heart and not just the eyes. We never know how what we say to one another may change the direction that one may go. The affect of words and how we use them can be life-changing. Thank you for your great empathy and compassion for others. I, too follow your principle " I believe God isn't waiting in the church, he lives in the special people who are living voices for him." Well said. Much love to you Amy ~ vocalcoach
..yes it was dear Amy who sent me back here - as she was quite overwhelmed by this story - and so was I - even now - although I was here before - so moved and touched as I am still now - so Audrey I will post this on my Facebook page with a direct link back here ..... I have left other comments for you here tonight - thank you for being in my life - you always make me feel so loved too!
Oh, thank you dear Epigramman. For you to post my hub on your facebook page is most generous of you. But then - is anyone more generous than you? I think not. You give support and confidence to our entire HP family. I give thanks each day for my great gift - "Epigramman".
We are not given to foretell
How our word(s) will echo
We are given empathy (compassion, sympathy)
As we we are given grace.
Fyodor (Theodor) Tyutchev, February 27th, 1869
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This is my favourite quote (among others) - yes, words have tremendous power and the beauty and the horror is that we don't know how they will echo - we may mean them to convey one message yet they reach others quite differently and unexpectedly.
I am thinking about so many times when my words are taken the wrong way and no matter how many times I try to explain that they do not mean what others see in them - it is impossible to change the emotional impact.
I love one writer who says that the main problem that people have is that they don't really understand the words they use.
The story that you told is truly moving and unbelievable at the same time - I do believe it, but still it seems to be a fairy tale.
But life is like that - sometimes we need to hold on a tiniest thread...
Kathy, my friend ~ I am so touched by your beautiful comments. You have a big heart, filled with compassion for others. That is the highest quality we can have. And your writing reflects this and so much more. I love reading your hubs and always bookmark each one. Thank you Kathy. Let your light shine!
Wow! I am experiencing you for the first time. What a powerful story. For the last eleven years my husband and I have been trying to help his son reach some sort of a normal life. He is schizophrenic and has been for several years. His only goal in life is to get high. He has been at the Tennessee Rehabilitation Center for about six months now. They have helped learn to take his medication and we thought they might be able to help him become more responsible for himself, but he is still immature. He is on vacation until the first of July. Unfortunately when we take him back we have to let him know he cannot come home anymore. He will have to make it on his own. We hope we are making the right decision, but we feel we have done all that we can. Thanks for a great story with a happy ending. We hope ours will be happy too. Teresa
I am so very sorry Teresa, to hear about this young mans addiction. I am very familiar with dealing with people addicted to drugs and alcohol. It is such a tormenting time for family members. This is when the words "tough love" come into play. He has to figure it out for himself, and the price is a high one to pay. One day, you will have your happy ending. Hold on to that thought.
Love and hugs to you and your husband, Teresa.
Your story on Edward is amazing, touching and inspiring. I once was going about hospitals visiting the sick, helping them out with a little amount of money incase they needed to buy drugs or something, then i also pray with them. I stopped all this suddenly but while going thru your hub am inspired start it over again. Thanks, plz i'd like you to visit my blog. http://word007.sosblog.com.
Karanda - Thank you for reading my hub about Edward. I look forward to seeing you again. Blessings to you!
vocalcoach~
I am new to the Hub.and I am so glad I found this to read. this is wonderful to read. what an experience you had as a teacher. and how precious you treated this young man that just wanted to die. you are so right about how we talk to people. how we treat people. God bless you for what you did. I will be thrilled to follow you. I voted up and awesome.
VC,
Wow! What a wonderful story!!
You get big kudos for being more than teacher! Thank you for stepping to the plate when the opportunity presented to be a mentor and a caring friend as well!
And, kudos to Edward to laying down the lie and exchanging it for the truth! That's such a difficult thing to do, and expresses tremendous courage on his part because it's nearly always easier to believe the bad than the good.
I'm thrilled that this had such a happy ending!
femme
femmeflashpoint ~ thank you for reading my story and for your wonderful comments. I am on my way to visit you right now. So glad to see you here!
That was fantastic! You should be proud for having had such an effect on someone. Not many people can say that they've been the inspiration for a person to keep on living. You deserve a high five (high five!)
You could change a person's life, change the way he thinks about himself and the way he looks to the world around. You made him love life after he decided to leave it. I'm just .... Impressed!
Awesome, beautiful, interesting and voted up!
forall ~ This experience will be with me the rest of my life. l have learned how powerful a few simple words can be. Thank you for reading my hub and for your endearing comments. I will drop by soon!
Audrey,
This is the most powerful, most beautiful piece of writing I have ever read on HubPages...and probably will every read.
What an inspirational story Audrey!
I cried for you and for Edward. You were his guardian angel without even knowing it. You have recounted the story here so well it's one of those things you can't stop reading. You've added enough of your personal life and background to make this a true masterpiece! Voted up, useful, awesome, beautiful, and interesting. Thanks for SHARING.
Hi, This was absolutely stunning. I actually can't find the right words to say. With those few words you completely changed someones life. Literally. I have never read something like this before, and I am in awe, amazing. voted up with everything and more.
This is such a touching story. I truely believe there are times in our lives that we may be put in a particular place or situation for the sole purpose to help someone like Edward. Your story has inspired me and I'm so happy that Edward is doing well. Thank you so much for sharing this amazing moment in your life.
Audrey, what a beautiful miracle I just read about. For once in my life I am (almost) speechless. I have to go and sit with this remarkable story a bit to absorb the full intensity. Thanks for sharing-I'll write more later. Voted up/across - funny.
Such a beautiful story! I felt your heart in your characters :) well written and such a great story! Voted up.
Daisy ~ Thank you for reading this. Your kind comments are sincere which means more than you can imagine. I shudder to think of what the alternative would have been had I listened to my head instead of my heart.
Audrey Howitt - thank you for reading this. It was a long time ago, yet it seems like yesterday. Take care Audrey!
This is a truly wonderful story. When we listen to the spirit that is inside each of us (The Heart) we can hear the truth and the truth can set us all free!
This is the first time I have read your work and I am glad I did.
Wow, this is such a wonderful, beautiful, inspiring hub! I was glued to it from the beginning. It is amazing what one life can do when they reach out to care and love someone. You just never know how you are going to make a difference in someone's life. Thank God you were a part of this young man's life.
Beautiful story. Edward was blessed to know you.
tillsontitan ~ Thank you for your heart-touching comments my friend. You have compassion and empathy - two of the greatest qualities to possess. You have made me glad that I finally had the courage to share my story.
And I appreciate the marvelous ratings!
This is a very beautiful story and I am so glad that you listened to your heart that day! This story shows that there is hope if we just show some kindness and love for others. You are a fantastic person and I am so happy to know you. You are a sensational teacher and you did the right thing that day! I enjoyed reading this, voted up, beautiful, awesome and sharing!
Tina
Audrey, I am speechless. You are an inspiration and people like you give us hope. You really are a teacher in true meaning and sense. I shall hold Edward's story very close to my heart. Thank you.
Words! I have always considered them above swords and wars! They can rip the soul or redeem it!
Your story in your words has touched my soul!
Edward was lucky to have met you! For not all kind with the words they speak!
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Great hub!
This story should be shared, for the sake of the Eduards that never got to hear those encouraging words. Voted up and shared.
Thank you Nell. How wonderful that you read this. I'm feeling good that I told my story. I almost came close to not sharing it. In fact I never told anyone until I joined hubpages.
Thank you for the vote up and more.
Fiddleman Level 5 Commenter 19 months ago
This is a tremendous hub and so inspirational. I'm so glad you were there for Edward and your words change the course of his life.