Happiness Is Your Right
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We worry too much
You have the right to be happy. Happiness is your right. Yet many of us actually feel a sense of guilt when we experience a ray of joy. We convince ourselves that because someone else we know and love isn't happy we shouldn't be either.
We see others in pain, going hungry, homeless, being abused and on and on. The world is in a terrible state. Our government is going to the dogs. We long for the "good old days." We hate being young yet we're afraid of growing old.
Worrying has become a way of life. We worry about getting fat, then we eat junk food to soothe our worried minds. We want to be in a relationship, but we can't trust one another.
We want to be loved, yet we believe we are unlovable. When we're cold we are miserable and when we're hot we suffer. We want to be successful yet we walk in fear.
Do we have the right to be happy when so many others are in pain or going without? But then what right do we have to be unhappy and sad when we have so much? Now, we aren't going to be happy all the time. We have compassion for the misfortune of others. At times we will feel grief and sorrow and that's a good thing. It's how we react to these conditions that cause us unhappiness.
Man is, that he might have joy...
Being happy is not a sin. In fact it's the other way around. You cannot be grateful for what you are, who you are and what you have if happiness doesn't exsist within. Happiness spreads joy. When we are truly happy, we tend to light up and even glow which affects others. A smile is healing, contagious and healthy.
The bible tells us "Man is, that he might have joy...and that he might have it more abundantly." Just think...not only is it ok to be happy...we are suppose to be happy. I like that.
Being happy is one of our basic human desires and it empowers us . It even changes the vibrations around us and empowers others as well. And that is one reason we are drawn to happy people. If we spend too much time with those who are negative and complaining all the time, before long our positive energy is "sucked" right out of us. When that happens, we are physically tired and mentally drained.
We are more vulnerable to sickness, discouragement, unhappiness and we lose much needed energy. We may even find ourselves crying for no reason (so we think) or getting angry. Sometimes we go so far as to take our anger out on a loved one. That isn't fair to them or to you. So it's important to socialize with healthy-minded, positive people with a good attitude.
Always remind yourself that happiness is your right. The more you think about this the happier you will be. Chant these words out loud "Happiness is my right." Sing those words and repeat them over and over again, throughout the day as often as you can.
Go to the extreme. Get in a comfortable position, or sit in a yoga pose and meditate. As you chant the words "Happiness is my right ", direct those feelings of happiness into every part of your body, especially the heart and the head. Breathe deeply before chanting which will help to distribute and channel confirming vibrations.
Studies have shown that a pleasant attitude brings success. When you are writing an article, take a quick break (you may continue sitting if you like), and do some deep diaphragmatic breathing. For further instruction on how to breathe this way go to my hub http://vocalcoach.hubpages.com/_1ictfyqvgguwn/hub/TheMiracleofBreathing
Tips for happiness and joy
Being happy is a choice. We can choose to be happy or not. Joy, which is different than happiness, can be found through principled living.When we live a life of gratitude, high principles, faith, forgiveness and service to others, we find that joy we deserve.
- Accept yourself as you are today
- Live with simple abundance
- Forgive
- Love yourself into wholeness
- Honor Mother Earth
- Pray/meditate
- Remake your own world
- Live in harmony and balance
- Live a life of service to others
- Awaken your heart with gratitude
- Live every moment as if it were your last
- Take good care of yourself
- Love one another
- Be honest and truthfull in all things
My Son
The worst day of my life
And now I'm going to lay it on the line so take a deep breath and try not to be mad at me. When we are unhappy in our life, it is a selfish thing. We are being ungrateful and even self-indulgent . An example would be to pretend that you are a child again. You get very angry and display unhappiness because you didn't get your way. (Oops - I think I know what that feels like.) You may even have a temper tantrum. Do you see the selfishness in this action?
We always try to justify our temper and anger . We are out-of-control and there is a good reason for it.
You may be thinking, "well, what does this author know about my life...what I've been through and how hard it is to be happy?." Well, I know how hard it can be. My beautiful son, Todd was taken quite unexpectedly from me when cancer invaded his strong, perfect body. He was only 42 and the single father of 4 little children whom he worshipped and adored.
I will forever remember driving to the hospital in the middle of the night, thinking that I was called to come and support Todd during a chemo treatment. It never entered my mind that I would be lead to a room where my son would be lying in a bed, still dressed in his Laker shirt and shorts, lifeless...gone I was all alone. The shock was striking every fiber of my being. I wanted to scream, I wanted to vent my anger, I wanted to bring my son back. His beautiful green eyes were open but he did'nt see me,his mother. In that moment I was changed forever.
We all live with unimaginable pain and sorrow at one time or another. The key to happiness lies in how we eventually deal with the outcome. Experiences like this can either shatter and destroy us for the rest of our life, or we can, after a time, choose to become a stronger, more determined and loving individual. Happiness is your right.
Concluding thoughts
If happiness is your right, claim it and claim it now. Why wait until tomorrow? What if tomorrow never comes? If you need to change your thinking, then do it. But do it now. Make a choice to be happy.
Find happiness in everything you do. It can be found in the simplest action. Happiness is housed in gratitude. You might say that happiness is the heart of gratitude. Avoid being judgemental. Not only with others, but with yourself.
I challenge you to begin now. It's a beautiful and full-filling journey and one that you deserve.
This is inspiring and uplifting and mostly it is do-able
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I agree totally with your words, Vocalcoach. I also feel that acceptance leads to happiness. I have found that searching for happiness is fruitless. Rather it tends to descend upon one when acceptance of what is, is complete.
Like you I thought I could never be happy again, ever. Like you, I too saw my lifeless son lying in a hospital after an accident and thought I would never recover from having him torn away from me forever.
However I am happier now than I have ever been in my life. Not because I have sought happiness out, I could have spent a lifetime looking for it, but because I have accepted what I cannot change and have embraced what I have.
We have travelled a similar tragic path and have not only survived, but have grown. I certainly feel empowered, more so than ever before. Happiness is very much our right. Thank you for this liberating hub.
I am so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine that kind of pain, but I am glad to know that you can recover and be happy afterwards. I agree with you that happiness is something under your control and something you have the right to pursue.
I agree with Millionaire Tips's sentiment.
As a person who goes through life in a steady state, neither happy nor unhappy, I have to admit that I have more ups than downs.
What does irritate me is that I seem to have one of those faces that doesn't look happy. No, I'm not grimacing, I'm not angry or upset, I'm just going through life, doing what I do.
Don't tell people to smile unless you know they're in need of it. You have absolutely no idea what is going on in someone's life unless you talk to them and they tell you. Assuming they're sad because of a facial expression at first meeting could be one of the most asinine things I've ever experienced.
Thank you for writing this - my favorite part of the hub is your tips, especially the one about being grateful.
Sometimes I struggle with being happy and joyful, so I really like your list!
You are such a joy giver to us here at hubpages =)
What beautiful sentiments and advice. You have to know pain to realise what life means to us. The simple things are what count to me: bird song, even my budgies singing. The sunlight breaking through winter chill, conversation with a friend. Even reaching out on hubpages to people here who may well be ships passing in the night, but help us get through that night.
So hard for you to loose your son in his prime and to see the grandchildren with their loss.
But you have made it through and are able to bring warmth and good sense to many who may also be going through hard times.
Well done! Bobx
Great Hub - It made me realise that Happiness is also a Choice. I love this. Cheers. :)
SECRETS OF HAPPINESS By BERNARD LEVINE
Kindness is the most
beautiful jewel in the world.
Love means having consideration
for each other.
The seeds you sow today
will be your fruit of tomorrow.
Fill your day with prayer
and your life with blessings.
Happiness is contentment
from within.
Find a dream to follow
that will stimulate your mind.
Make laughter your partner
through life.
Be prepared to fight
for what you want or believe in.
Remember - every day is a new beginning.
© Bernard Levine
SECRETS OF LIFE By BERNARD LEVINE
Look for the beauty
in everything you see.
Walk in peace
showing kindness
everywhere.
The secrets of success
are motivation
and dedication
Happiness is
what you make happen
for yourself.
Caring is
going to the ends of the world
for a stranger.
Be useful with your life.
Whatever you are doing
put your whole
being into it 100%
Loving is
pleasing your loved one everyday
in a 1000 different ways.
Control your mind
you are its master
Be in control.
Live your life
without hurting or
destroying.
Believe in yourself.
Have respect for yourself.
Walk through life
always with a song.
© Bernard Levine
What a heartbreak for you! I'm not sure I would ever recover from something like you endured. You have a wonderful positive outlook on life. You are an inspiration to us all. Thanks for sharing this with us.
Wow! In the face of such loss as you have had to be able to rise above and not only feel joy again but try to bring it to others is highly commendable. Thank you so much for this.
You're right. It's so easy to focus on the negative. It is a far greater thing to build people up through sharing joy. God bless you!
Thank you Vocalcoach, what you say is true, your hub says a mouth full of heart felt words that should be true for all of us that's seeking happiness of any kind. I appreiate your hub and I'm truly sorry for your lost. Godspeed. creativeone59
Up awesome and beautiful.
I made a promise to myself a while a go to make someone I don't smile/laugh, I have been quite successful at doing this.
Hi vocalcoach
I am happy that I read your hub. :-)
Voted up and away!
What a wonderful hub - great tips! Losing a child has to be one of the hardest things for a parent, no matter what age. Your grandchildren are so very lucky to have you:)
Very inspiring hub. I agree with you. We have right to get happiness. Even most people struggle to get happiness and I learn from you about to get this without worrying at all. Well done and rated up!
Prasetio
yes audrey yes i agree totally.since we are taught to be selfless since childhood we sometimes take it to extremes and put ourselves last of all and become miserable since what we do is at variance with what we ought to be doing.when i feel down i often go off and reward myself with things which are just for me- even such as those if vocalised would be considered bad or very selfish- but i tell myself i deserve the happiness and ought to have it. Also,even if I have to bring happiness into the lives of those i care for I HAVE TO BE happy.there is no way a depressed sad guy can make others happy.
Very Interesting Hub! Voted up
You are incredibly wise and I want to thank you for inspiring me. Up and awesome.
Thank you for writing this hub Audrey, this is a wonderful message and something we need to remind ourselves of and to always try and live by.
Also a thank you to fennelseed for her truly inspirational comments.
voting up, best wishes Lesley
Oh Audrey,
You have outdone yourself with this awe-inspiring, hub which has so much wisdom and so many tips on achieving happiness and seeing it as a right instead of seeing it as a guilty pleasure.
I totally agree with everything you said and I think that this hub is so powerful because you shared what you went through with the loss of your son which gives us, the readers, hope that despite our own life circumstances or losses, we still can choose happiness.
Voted up across the board except for funny.
Am also bookmarking this beautiful hub.
How shall I describe this beautiful, inspiring, wise, tender, realistic, awesome hub you have just written, Audrey? You and I and too many more mothers (and fathers) know firsthand of the tremendous pain and heartbreak caused by the loss of a child.
Parents are not supposed to outlive their children. Yet in this imperfect world, loss and grief happen. You have wisely chosen to remember all the happy memories and forget as best you can the unhappy ones. I do that, too, and I can attest that choosing to be happy is the best and only course to follow. Thank you for this worthy reminder, my dear. Voted up.
I can always count on you for inspirational thoughts and professional advice. You are a rock! Namaste dear friend.
Vocalcoach, there are giants that walk amoung us. In my opinion you are one of those giants. You have cause to behave sadly and choice to support, inspire and shine light everywhere you appear.
Beautiful words to live by, Audrey. I got choked up seeing Todd's face again-that familiar photo that is so delightful to look at.
I cannot imagine the pain you endured...endure...in your life without your 'baby'. I can only imagine how strong you are! Many blessings my dear friend. Thank you for sharing this inspiring hub.
A fine philosophy, Audrey. I admire the strength of women like you and Angela Blair. My sister lost her youngest daughter last year, my niece.
Beloved Audrey,
I think it was time for me to know the answer to the question I never dared to ask you. I hug you from afar, dearest friend.
Thank you for this beautiful hub.
Beautiful. Thank you for sharing your story and being an inspiration of finding happiness through it all.
Very, very beautiful, I loved reading your story, thanks for sharing and I wish you an abundance of love, light, peace, joy and happiness now and always !
I like saying what you wrote, "happiness is my right!" So true. For some of us, it is something we may have forgotten esp. when faced with life's challenges. Thank you for this positive reminder! Love and happiness to you always :D
This was one of the most amazing hubs I´ve read. I´ve been guilty of feeling guilty if I´m happy so many times.!!!!! You have put that one straight to bed for me. Even as I type now, I am taking deep breathes and telling myself I have the right to be happy. I must admit it helps if I think by being happy I can make life more pleasant for others.
Oh! Thank you so much for this hub....!!!!!
VC. I understand your pain. I have lost a brother, a father and a ex-husband(whom was still my best friend) within a year of each other. The three most important men in my life were taken from me and I had no control. I had no support on my end at all from any part of my family (or what was left of my family) It seemed as if I had to do all the comforting. Did I mind? Not at all, I have had to be the strong one or the "shoulder" for family and friends all my life. But the loss and the hurt was unbearable and no one will ever know the pain I went through. Your tips are well intentioned and I'm sure if applied, we can overcome so much in our lives that we bring on ourselves as well as what society dictates to us. It's easier when you have friends and family who can help you through all this, but when you go it alone, it can take a little longer. Thank you for your hub. I'm sure it will help many people who read it.
RL
A Sad and Poignant read, Vocalcoach. To lose a Son to Cancer. No parent should have to face that. But you give a Beautiful Message in this Hub. Being Happy is a Choice...and only we can make ourselves happy. I admit a lot of times, I do feel Guilty if I'm Happy about something in my life...it goes back to an unhappy Childhood. Thanks for sharing your Upbeat views and Thoughts as only you can! You dear Friend, are such a Special Lady...And those 4 Grandchildren are so Lucky to have You in their lives.
What a beautiful hub. My condolences on the loss of your son. I so appreciate you sharing this with us, and I agree with everything you've said. I'd like to add more, but I'm a bit speechess.
Thanks again!
-K. Alto
What a lovely inspiring treasure you are my friend Audrey! I love your mantra and I really needed to read this tonight so I will get back to my more frequent relaxation exercises, it is so easy to "forget" let it go, "tomorrow" and then get into the cycle of procrastination which only makes it worse! Thank you for your beautiful smile and appreciation of what we all do have to be happy about! Up Useful and Beautiful!
Joy!Thanks for sharing and keep on smiling!
vocalcoach - this is truly a wonderful hub. I always love to see your smiling face. I think that we all have issues and pain that we have to deal with. I can't imagine the pain you felt with your son, but then sometimes I am amazed at the things that I have endured. You have made some wonderful points. I liked the Bible verse you quoted, showing that we are supposed to be happy. Another one keeps popping into my head since reading you words - He will never give us more than we can bear or handle. Why? Because He is always there with us. Truly, another reason to be happy.
Dear vocalcoach: I thank you for your courage and your wisdom. Keep sending those powerful thoughts of happiness as our right to the world.
A lovely hub Vocal and so true! We choose our emotions and we are the masters of our thoughts. Even if we sometimes feel that we are victims of life we can always choose how we handle the things that happen to us. You have faced the worse moments a mother can go through so I value your words very high. If someone knows, it is you! Thanks for the great inspiration vocal!
Tina
Everyone should be completely happy. It is so difficult to comprehend losing a loved one. You are an amazing woman to have coped with enduring such pin and heart ache in your life.
A brilliant hub Audrey and thank you for sharing.
Take care and enjoy your day.
Eddy.
There are many good tips in this hub. So many people are taught to peg their happiness on material things they might achieve in the future, that they are missing out on the moment. I prefer focusing on what I have, not what I might and possibly could have in some remote and distant future.
Happiness is our right, and a choice we make. I admire you for choosing happiness when you could have easily and understandably chosen a different direction with the loss you have suffered. You are an admirable, strong human being.
Well then, I choose to exercise my right today! Great hub!
Powerful. Poignant. Like an arrow shot true and sure hitting home I am awakened to the newness of today. Thank you vocal coach! I agree while saying all those, which agree, let's become the flowers of the seeds of this inspiration you have planted.
Happiness is second-most thing people crave for...The foremost of course is Money.. :)
Jokes apart...I thoroughly read this Hub and enjoyed it.. Thanks for bringing this up...
Awesome hub. My condolences on your loss. Your hub is amazing & very inspiring. Thank you for sharing.
Hi Vocalcoach! I have to say - this is very sentimental to me. I'm book marking it:). I have felt guilty many times before - when something good happens. It's hard to always feel deserving when you know other people could have used a nudge more than yourself.
Very beautiful article that makes a person want to think before they type!
If there is a better message I'd like to hear it! Great hub with a greater message! I love your outlook on life, one I completely share. By the way, thanks for the follow!
Very true words, vocalcoach. I definitely agree with all of these points mentioned. Pleasure and pain are the two aspects of life. These are inbound elements which give life a meaning by balancing each other.
Well, thanks for sharing this nice and thought-provoking hub. Voted up.
I certainly needed to "hear" this today. Your words are very inspiring and so genuine, especially since you have experienced a mother's worse loss. I am so sorry about your son, but I am so happy to know that you still can have happy times in your life.



















































AudreyHowitt Level 7 Commenter 4 months ago
Lovely hub! But I wonder if we as a society spend too much time seeking happiness rather than acceptance---not to put a bubble in your thoughts--just a thought on the relationship between happiness and acceptance--